Dating your Husband
I want to talk about something totally different yet very dear to my heart and that’s “Dating you Husband”. If you read my Anniversaries Series, you’ll know how strongly I feel about taking time out of our busy lives and making an effort to keeping the love and romance alive in the marriage.
I will not duplicate what I wrote, you can read it there if you haven’t, but I am excited to open this post almost like a forum style and get your input as well.
I so enjoy reading your comments. We call all learn so much from each other. In that series, we share a ton of tips and ideas you can do to date your husband. Ideas for going on, dating on a budget and just different things you can do.
Today, I want to hear your idea:
- How often do you go out? What keeps you from going out more?
- What kinds of things do you do for date nights when you are out and about? How about when you stay home?
- Tips on doing date nights on a budget, or if you are able to spoil yourself with something fancier? What do you do?
- What do you do with your kids when you go out? Or if you stay at home.
- What do you do with gifts for special occasions? What’s a good gift idea if someone is stuck. Leave a link with some ideas.
These are just some questions to get you started. I’d love to get inspired by some of your ideas and I bet others will love the input as well.
The giveaway assosiated with this post is CLOSED! Thank you all and I hope you enjoy the post.
Fondly, Timur & Valentina
This is such a cute idea, Valentina. I can’t wait to hear everyone’s comments. We definitely don’t do this enough so I’m excited to get ideas! Blessings to you and your family.
Thank you, Verka. Hope you’ll be inspired as I will.
This is such a sweet gesture!! Dating it’s important, and yes hard to do with two toddlers, but possible 🙂
Hi, Lana. Toddlers are hard work – ha! Yes, everything is possible if you just put effort into it. Blessings to your family.
We definitely don’t do this as often as I wish, and mostly because both of us work (me part time and my hubby full time) and we have 2 little boys ages 1 and 2, plus a little girl due in February. Life is sure busy, but enjoyable. Once every 2 weeks we have a true day off when we’re both home and able to enjoy family life. Going out is hard with little kids and to go without them rarely happens because of the need for a babysitter. Usually our “date nights” are the quiet evenings when the kids are already in bed and we can stay up longer, enjoying teatime together and some sandwiches:) I love those evenings… the couple times that we did manage to go out alone was when I already had a babysitter at home, like when we had our ultrasound appointment, and afterwards instead of going home right away we went out for lunch. I find that with little kids at home you gotta be creative to have some alone time;) This is a very important topic, Valentina. I enjoy your blog a lot! God bless you and your family!
Date nights make me so excited! ??Unfortunately they don’t happen often because I have five little munchkins I need to take care of.
My husband thought dates is a “silly”American tradition, but after I arranged a few date nights myself now he loves it and even ask me out if we haven’t done anything for a while ?
I love going to little romantic cafes and fancy dessert places usually places we aren’t able to take kids with us. Happy hours are great and good prices.
We usually leave kids with our parents.
I also love to put kids to bed earlier light up some candles, stay up and chat away and drink tea or watch something.
I don’t give him gifts often because I wait last minute and then not sure what to buy, need to work on that ?
I loved reading all your dating posts, truly something that really works to keep excitement in marriage. I appreciate your hard work ?
Had a smile on my face the whole time I was reading your comment, Alena. What ages are your kiddos? We have five too. Lots of work! Love your cute little fancy cafe idea. Those are the best and just so much better when you can relax and enjoy the cup of hot tea or coffee (while it’s hot). You’re so cute, loved your comment about the gift, so real. Hey, you know what. You could always get something when you are out and about and just tuck it away somewhere. Then when you need it, there it is. He’d never know. Blessings to you and your family.
Hey Valya my kids are 7,6,4,2 and 6months 🙂 Its difficult at times. I think now our alone time and date nights are so much more special and appreciated. Our anniversary is coming up so that’s exactly what I did, I bought his gift early so I’m excited about that ???
Happy Anniversary, Elenka. Wishing you many many blessings from Above. You are a busy mama and oh so blessed. Though kids are a lot of work, they are such a blessing!
This is such a nice topic! We don’t go out as much. Little kids and hard to find a babysitter. Sometimes I’ll put them down to sleep earlier. I’ll cook a nice dinner. Add some candles and make it a romantic dinner.;) can’t wait to hear some ideas!
I agree, it’s very hard to organize something during the season of babies/toddlers. Sometimes staying at home and just bonding in conversation is the best kind of date night!
What a sweet gesture! Finding time to go on dates with your husband is hard when you have small children, but it’s possible. We usually have our parents watch them for couple hours while we get away for dinner. A small rule we try to keep when we’re out, not talk about kids but rather focus and get to know each other more. It’s easier said than done, especially when a mom is stay-at-home and her world is kids 24/7, but it’s needed to just sit back and get to know your spouse.
Thank you Valentina for such a great post!
Hi Viktoriya, I love that rule. We have that rule too.
Blessing to your parents for giving you some time away to enjoy each other.
Thanks for visiting!!
Very cute idea! We do not go out as often as we’d like due to having 4 kiddos, hubby is self employed & if work is not finished we don’t get paid, as well as being involved in Church ministry & extra activities for our kids. We do make it a point to go out once in a while. Often we’ll just spend a couple hours alone @home after the kids have gone to bed. Our faves are bath, tea time, massage… we can spend hours just talking, well mostly me ? (I gotta let it out) but so does he. Our oldest is now old enough to watch his younger siblings for a couple hours so we can go out. Sometimes if web leave over night or for a longer period of time we ask someone older to stay with kids or take em to grandparents house. We have one set that lives about 40-45 min away so we don’t have that opportunity too often. Anyways, I’m excited to get more ideas as well especially with gifts.. ? Thank you for your blog ?
Hi, Nata. We have a lot in common. My husband is also self-employed, we are also very involved at our church.
Hey, being home with four kiddos, of course you have a lot to say. I know the feeling, I have 5. Communication is so important and even the little things that we women keep in make a huge difference once finally expressed to our best friend.
Thanks so much for being a part of our online friends.
Everyone needs a little stress relief once in a while , I definitely need one with 4 kids. ? So I believe Dating your husband or wife are the perfect way to Slow down, take a few deep breaths and get away from the everyday hustle of life. Spending some time together is the perfect way to strengthen your marriage.
Hi, Galina. I agree with you, spending time together will definitely strengthen your marriage and we all can use some strengthening. <3
Such a important topic! Me and my hubby very rarely go out just the two of us because of little kids and hard to find babysitter. Would love to win this giveaway so we could enjoy a date:)
Yes, the season of life with little kiddos is really hard. Enjoy each other when kiddos are down for the night. :0)
Thank you for visiting our blog.
Very thoughtful and creative idea! Would be a perfect early Christmas gift with all the hassle around this time of year!
Thanks so much for the sweet comment, Oksana. 🙂
What a great topic. With a small baby who refuses the bottle it’s really hard to go on a date with my hubby but we try to go out at least once a week even if it’s just for an hour or two. We usually do coffee dates, sushi or go to our local bakery and share a dessert. We love talking about our dreams, hopes, prayers… Share with each other what God has been speaking to us personally.
Marianna, I LOVED reading your comment. Those are our favorite topics to talk about as well. If we are both growing spiritually, everything else will just fall into place. I love sushi too, and I love coffee – we are officially friends. <3
Date nights are so important, if only there were more opportunities for them. We go out when we’re able to get someone to watch the kids. Would love to hear more ideas.
I am with you, Tanya. I am reading all of these comments with excitement, makes me want to start planning a year in advance.
We don’t go out as often as we like but when we do we definitely enjoy the evening for a couple hours without the kiddos☺️ I would love to hear some datenight ideas I’m so bad at coming up with cute little things to do or even surprise him with but when I do think of something my husband loves it so much so I’m definitely looking for some suggestions☺️
Hi Julie. Hopefully, we will all hear all kinds of cute ideas for gifts for ourselves. I agree with you, the Mr. love a sweet surprise (as do I).
Thank you for such a wonderful giveaway! We don’t really do date nights because if we do go out then we like to go out with our whole family ? we did go on a mission trip together which was awesome being together for a month, although we missed our son so much!!
Yana, I LOVE that you went on a mission trip together! That’s absolutely the BEST kind of relationship builder. Lord willing, we will be going on one together in December this year. I am so excited.
Blessings to you and your family.
God bless your trip dear!!:)
What a sweet giveaway Valya! We do go out at least once a week but it’s usually with kids just cause it’s sometimes a hassle to find a babysitter? except if it’s a special celebration like our anniversary or birthday then we try to take a little out of town trip with just the two of us! We’re big tea drinkers so we like to put the kids down for the night and drink our teas and catch up on each other’s day?
I know what you mean, Galina. It can be hard finding a sitter but so worth the hassle.
Yumm, tea is awesome. Do you drink tea leaves or bags? What’s your favorite? My hubby is from Uzbekistan – they are tea fanatics and I’m a huge tea drinker now too. I love trying new teas.
This is a great topic to talk about! I can’t wait to get more ideas… We don’t go out on the dates often because we have a hard time to find a babysitter for our little children, but when opportunity arrives we like to go out to the restaurant or an ice cream place for an hour or two… Sometimes , in the evening, when kids are in bed, we spend time with each other…. mostly talking or drinking tea ..
Thanks for the comment. Ice cream is a wonderful treat to enjoy together, even cuter if you share a bowl together.
Many blessings to your family.
Wow awesome topic. Love when u post things that’s related so much in this life. When we got married I loved having date nights then shortly we got blessed with our first child and that’s when date have stopped. For me my children was everything I didn’t wanna leave them with anyone was always scared and my kids never took bottles so I was bf them,but for my husband he always wanted to have date nights. And I thought it was weird to date since we’re married but lil did I know our love started to drift we were always busy with either me with kids (they are my everything before my husband) or him with work to provide for us. this went on for goodness 5 yrs no date nights alone. Up untill this year we actually had couple date nights. Oh my was I nervous for them or what I didn’t know what we will talk about etc and felt weird going on them but thank God I know Now how important it is to have that alone time with a husband and reconnect .
If counting those couple of hours after our kids are in bed and soundly sleeping, then we do date nights almost every night. Of course older kids protest against being in bed at 9, but they almost always are sleeping by 9:30, so we “earn” couple of hours for just the two of us. I’d prepare small appetizers, fruits and tea for those hours, sometimes i prepare something fancier and more special.
Whenever my Mom takes our children for sleepover, we go out and make it even more special and memorable time. Life is too short to miss those “just us” times. Also, i have a very strong opinion that children are nice addition to the family,a gift from God; however they SHOULD NOT be the center or bonding part of the family. After all, we’re just raising them for someone else, whom they will choose later on, to spend their biggest chunk of life with… Kids learn and understand that mommy and daddy need to have private, “adults only” time to reconnect and work on maintaining strong marriage, which benefits the whole family.
Olga, you have an interesting opinion about not having children be in the center. While I don’t agree, I’ve never heard of that thought before.
I want to be best friends with my children and want to give them the attention they need.
After all they are the only thing I can take to heaven.
I want to bond with them every day!
They are what keeps our marriage so alive!
I would not want them to feel like I’m just there to feed and clothe them until they are ready to leave the house.
I want them to know that I am always there for them and will listen to them.
In our marriage, our children is what makes us closer to each other. We may not have every night for ourselves but every minute spent with the children is part of our relationship…
Our children are not interfering with our relationship…
But maybe that’s just the way I was brought up. I am still, to this day best friends with my parents.
Such a great topic!
Natasha, your words really resonated with me. I feel that my kids are the best thing that ever happened to me – a true reward (after my husband and Jesus of course). I do not want them to feel they are a burden even though raising kids is so challenging. I want them to feel loved and accepted: through the way we treat them and make them feel, we model for them God’s love for us.
Sorry for going off topic. ? My husband and I have been married for 11 years, 5 kids. Maybe once a month we go out for a dinner date – love seafood! For some reason we really connect through conversations on car rides. ? When our toddler is ready, we would like to get away for a night. A mountain cabin in winter would be cozy and fun.
Loved reading all the posts!
Olechka! I absolutely LOVED your comment and TOTALLY agree with you. Children should not be the glue that keeps our marriage flourishing. They will find their better half, leave us and start a family together. We will always be close and have a wonderful relationship but I need to focus on my hubby – the one I will grow old with. Our children are so used to the idea and they love it, many times our older boys will be like, mom and dad it’s been too long since you have had a date night, go out. So sweet.
Valentina, this is such a cute idea:) My husband and I dont go out as much as we should since its so hard to find a babysitter, but if we do have the chance we like to go bowling, have a picnic, new restaurant, or just a long walk somewhere riverfront ? but when baby goes to sleep we usually have a candlelit “tea time”?
Id love to win this, the 2 surprise gifts would be so fun to open!!
Olga, loved reading your comment. Love bowling, picnics and walks. All such good ways to spend time together!
Going out on date nights is on my wish list, lol. Very hard to do right now with 6 kiddos ages 8 and under. We’re lucky to get 30 min once in awhile in peace, lol. Anyway, we try to stay connected throughout the day, complement each other, encourage, listen, speak your thoughts, (don’t just assume that your spouse can read your mind). As children get older, hopefully things will become easier, because right now managing to get some sleep is a priority so often.
Bless your heart, Alena. May God give you wisdom and lots of strength in raising your kiddos, so much work.
Ha! Loved your comment on not assuming your husband can read your mind. Yes, sleep is totally a priority. My biggest lesson learned is the cleaning will never end, the laundry will never get done but naps are so important. Happy mamma = happy household.
Thank you so much for your blog! This giveaway is so so exciting! I would love to win but if I don’t I’ll be so happy for those couples who do!
With young children, not living close to anyone I know who can babysit, and saving for a house,going out with my husband is rare but oh so special!
When we do have the opportunity to eat out we like to find a cute locally owned bakery or restaurant. We like the history of those places!
I guess I pretty much date my husband every single day. I try to make every home coming of his special with simple things.
Things that I enjoy doing for my husband is:
To stop by his work as a surprise with a coffee or smoothie.
Always greet him at the door when he comes home. I try to teach that to the children. It only takes a few seconds to give a hug and say hi and run back to what we were doing.
Writing notes on the mirriors.
If he’s working on something outside, just sit outside and watch him. Listen to him explain how a tractor motor works even if you don’t really care that the engine is this many horsepower and uses this kind of oil and has this many screws. ?
Thank him for the little things he does.
Lighting up candles at meal time.
When he is home I try to put work aside and spend time with him and and the children.
Maybe we’re a little old school but our marriage is so blessed! I thank God everday for such an amazing husband! I do not deserve it!
Natashenka, your comment got me all teary eyes. I love the relationship you have. So beautiful. We would totally be friends. I’m a big believer in all of the things you shared. Wishing God’s blessings for your family. May His hand always be over your home and all of your endeavors.
I hear this all the time how important it is to have date nights with husband and I totally agree. However I live far from family and have a hard time trusting someone I don’t know. So date nights are only reserved for after kids go to sleep.( I have two toddlers and a newborn) but it’s a season of life kids grow up eventually ?
Sorry to hear that. It’s hard when you don’t have family nearby. Maybe find someone in your church that you can become friends with and you watch theirs and they watch yours once a month? Just an idea. Yes, this is only a season and it’s so much easier once kiddos are older!
That’s a good reminder for me to organize something like that with my husband! I’ve read so many great ideas, hope to use them soon. Thank you, Valentina!
Loved that you found this post useful, Inna. Thanks for the encouragement. Many blessings to your family.
We like to go out with kids. We had a hard time getting pregnant and once God blessed us after almost 5 years of struggle, we’ve decided to take our kids with us each time we go anywhere, well except work. We do date nights when kids are in bed, that happens about 4 or 5 times per week for couple hours each night where would would have a cup of tea, games, just simple talks, candles, ect… I cherish those moments. Would love to try some other ideas I read in this posts and comments! Thank you all for sharing!
Thank you, Jesus, for the miracle of children.
We love games as well, especially during the winter when it’s really cold to go out. Game nights are great friendship builders and just so easy on the soul.
Many blessings to your family.
We try to do date night every month or every two month. We like to go for massages couple times a year it feels like mini vacation because helps you to relax. We found great place that we like and reasonable. We try to take small weekend getaway at least once a year. I think having date nights or getaway helps us to slow and connect again. We have two little toddlers and they are lot and everyone needs little break! Thank you for bringing up this topic it is very important to have a good marriage where you actually like each other and want to be together after being married for long time!
Mashka, loved your comment. So true about going out and getting massages together. It really does feel like vacation and SOO reviving. You come home with new energy.
May the Lord watch over your family.
Hello Valentina, I love your inspiring posts like this. Date nights are great but for family like ours almost impossible. We both work full time and hubby works at two jobs. So by the time he gets home and I put kids to bed, he is already asleep. We used go on vacations once a year with out kids, but since they are toddlers its harder to find someone to watch them in the evening. we still try to go on weekend getaway once a year, when we visit my family in a different state and can leave kids with them. I wish we lived closer to family. But once a while we go out with kids after church and try to have fun.
Thanks so much for the encouragement. I love reading that these posts are a blessing to not only me. Makes me oh so happy!
Awww, it truly is super hard when both parents are working. Hey, there is so much you can do at home in the evening to make up for no going out. Date nights at home can be just as wonderful.
Dating your husband is an important thing! My husband and I do kind of struggle with this right now, he has been so busy in these last few months of finishing up school. It is really hard because he gets distracted easily so I don’t hardly feel like I see him much. I always enjoy the times that we are able to share, you have such a unique giveaway, thank you for encouraging these times of being together for all the couples out there!
Blessings for your Mr. to finish his schooling. Once he is done, maybe you can hopefully get on more of a stable schedule for your family.
We used to go on dates at least 1-2 times a month, and have at home “dates” after we put the kids to bed sometimes too, but definitely haven’t done either in a while- we’ve had a lot going on!
Marinka. Hopefully, you will be so inspired reading all of these comments and will set something up. 🙂
Such a great topic, and interesting ideas from others, thank you!
We don’t get much to get out just two of us because don’t have a babysitter but when we do get out we would go to the downtown or a restaurant:) We love to spend quality time together with our family which when my husband has days off during the week, we try our best to do something with our kids(3 year old and 1 year old) for example take them to the zoo or park to feed the ducks or play at the playground:)
When the kids go to sleep early we like to play bible games together, drink tea, and read and pray just the two of us.
Also, I like to surprise my hubby with his favorite food for dinner or bake some new sweets for him:)
I loved reading your comment, Tatyana. I think we would be friends!! We try to take kids somewhere weekly as well. Usually, we dedicate Saturdays to family days. I don’t cook fancy, clean or do laundry on Saturdays.
I love that you take your date nights and use them to grow spiritually. Just makes my heart sing – that’s so beautiful.
Wishing you guys many, many God’s blessings for your family. <3
What a great topic ? me and my husband gets out when we can…when my sister offers to babysit, which is sweet of her. But other than that we have a date with the kiddos :)we like to take them out too as they too get bored sitting home. I have a 1 and 2 year old. They make us happy. I almost don’t mind the kids with us ? I guess I say that because I’m used to getting out with my kids. If I say we are all going to restaurant, my 2 year old can never be happier lol she loves to go there and just to get out of the house.
Me and my husband have “our time” once they are asleep.
Your sister truly is a sweetheart, Karolina. Bless her heart.
Time together after kids are asleep are wonderful! They can be the best kinds of date nights. <3
I love reading this kinda posts, me and my husband barely go out, it’s not easy to find a babysitter but definatly need to go out more often and spend time together. Usually our evenings when I put kids to sleep I need to finish cleaning up and get everything ready for next day, by the time I finish it im already falling asleep, have to admit I don’t get enough sleep.
The cleaning will never finish. It will be there next morning, promise ;). Enjoy a lovely evening with your hubby and go to sleep early! Also, naps are such a blessing. I promise the whole family will benefit more from you if you take naps and have more energy for your family. When I first was married, I was like that, never found the time for myself. I served, served and served. Then found that I can do so much more if I am well rested and have some me time. 🙂 Hope that encourages you. 🙂
Me and my husband went on dates when we didn’t have kids but now we have 3 kids under age 5 and we never been to dates in years! I know how it is important to spend time together and to have that connection but my husband is working a lot and he goes to school, on top of that he’s helping ppl and I feel like he’s never home. He gets home when It’s bedtime and when I put kids to bed I fall asleep with them so we barely get night time dates and I feel like it’s drawing us apart.. Even if we get 30 min for each other when kids sleep sometimes my one year old would distract us by waking up( she’s a bad sleeper). I love my kids and I thank God for them. We just don’t get alone time. This year I decided to find a time to get out for a date but still hadn’t found the perfect time for it. It would be nice to get this giveaway prize.
Awww, Lilya. I remember that season of life when all kiddos were under 5, it’s hard. However, it does pass and it does get easier. It’s so important to get away not only for your husband but yourself as well. You need a break too sometimes, my fellow mama. Blessings to you and your family.
Aww what a sweet topic!
Me and my husband don’t have “specific” going out dates planned but everytime we get out with out kids we go and enjoy a coffee or even a drive through ? and make it as special as we can. We are so used to our 5 kiddos that even if we do get out on planned dates all we do is talk about our kids ☺️☺️ Which is a sign that we are already missing them! I think it’s important to have a one on one time with your hubby to let it out sometimes or just to vent. Also being out of the house for a bit really is good for your soul. We don’t do expensive eat outs.. half off appetizers are amazing.. or like I said a drive through of any kind of restaurant. We don’t really buy gifts for each other we just sort of go to the store together pick out what we want and both agree on purchasing it (like a perfume or maybe a new jacket, boots.. etc) yes work and house chores can cause so much stress on a couple but I think sometimes we need to PAUSE and just enjoy time with our family or husbands! ?
Tanya, So glad you enjoyed this topic. I loved it as well.
I really enjoyed reading your beautiful comment – looks like you have a system that works for your family.
Even though my husband and I have been married for only two and a half years, I have understood the importance of dating. At times we don’t go out for couple of weeks but when we have a chance we try to go on a small getaway for the whole day. We like our dates to be more casual, no fancy clothing or awkward atmosphere. My husband and I started a small tradition where we go crab fishing at the ocean. The time we spend together brings us closer to together and the best part of it all is no interruptions from our phones or social media.
I love your crab fishing dates. That is so sweet!
And especially love that you leave the electronics behind. Think that in itself can be a date!
Blessings on your marriage!
Wow nice topic… hmmm dating your husband… with 7 kids 11 n under we hardly ever go out without the kids. Saturday’s is our family day. We like to drive to San Francisco to the Ocean, n stop by Ghirardelli ice cream shop, go to the zoo, take walks to the park(at least once a week). I think it’s important to show love n respect on a daily basis greet husband at the door, make his favorite meal, make him some coffee. We also love to turn on the fireplace, dim the lights n have appetizers n kids play games while we just talk, n relax ? but I do wish to go somewhere just me n my love, it’s very hard to find a babysitter for this many kids but I guess once the older ones start growing up we will start going out ? at least I hope so.
Love your big and blessed family, Tatyana. Children are such a gift and God blessed you with so many of them. You must be doing something right that He entrusted you with so many precious lives.
Yes, Tatyana. Once kiddos are older, it’s SOO much easier to go out. So so much easier. It’s a beautiful season of life.
Blessing on your family. May God give you wisdom and strength to raise your children and be a wonderful helpmate for your hubby.
We used to have date nights but not very often. And now with small kids we do not have at all. When kids are in bed I still doing my homework and by the time I’m done with my homework my husband Is sleeping ?. I think dating my husband is going to be my New Years resolution for the next year?.
I love your positive outlook, Galya. New Years resolution for more frequent date nights is a phenomenal idea!! LOVE it.
Wishing you blessing on your schooling.
Wow we all sound so similar! Kids, hard to find a babysitter, no time…. we have same story, barely go out alone, just the two of us. Been married for 15 years, our oldest one is 13 so its finally starting to get a little easier! But mostly our date nights are when kids go to bed and its peace and quiet, we can watch a movie or just talk!
Olya, it’ll be 15 years for us at the end of the month as well. Our oldest just turned 14. It really does get easier once you can slowly give the older kids the responsibility of watching the younger kiddos. It’s so nice and truly a blessing.
We never get out on dates since we have a 3 ur old and 1 year old. We don’t like to overuse our parents to watch the kids and don’t have a babsitter. I know it’s important to go on dates, but we definitely need to work on it here!
Awww, what a sweet and fun age Julie.
Maybe going out on more dates can be a New Year’s resolution.
I love posts like this, keep
We have 4 kiddos so we don’t go out by ourselves much at all, we do go out but we take the kids with us!
We don’t mind taking them with us, they enjoy it and we enjoy it. We have our time in the evening after we put the kids to sleep. We sit and talk have some tea sometimes until very late at night ? What a nice giveaway you have going, would love to be part of it. Thank you ! God bless you!
Talking sometimes is the best kind of date night. Communication is so vital in a healthy marriage. Love it.
After 2 kids, dating the spouse is extremely key to keeping ones sanity.
Haha, Manda! I LOVE how you worded that. Absolute truth.
Many, many blessings on your family.
My husband and I have two children with Autism. Sometimes getting out on a date night requires some pretty intense planning but it is so important.
Aww, Jennifer. My heart reaches out to you. Bet it does take some planning but it is probably SUCH a blessing to both of you to get out for a few hours to just relax.
Wishing God’s blessings, good health and protection over your family.
My husband and I try to do things together on the weekends when I’m home. They typically involve going for a drive or exploring a new place. We don’t do dinner much, so winning this gift card would be a special treat. I think it’s important to continue to put effort into your marriage and romance.
A drive exploring new things sounds lovely. With a cup of hot coffee of course.
Going out on dates is so important, but unfortunately for us it does not happen very often. With our 4th baby on the way and our oldest being 4 (almost 5), it’s hard to find the time and someone to leave the kiddos with… besides that, being on a super tight budget doesn’t help either.
I’m a long time waiting for our next romantic night out with my wonderful husband! Hopefully sometime soon… ♡
Children are such a blessing, Julie. Congrats. It really is hard to get our when kiddos are so young in age, been there. This season passes and before you know it, the kiddos are teenagers and you’re in a totally different season in life.
Wishing you and your growing family many blessing!
Love reading these kinds of posts and comments! We have been married for 6 years and have 4 kiddos. We love going on dates but it happens very rarely.. birthdays and anniversary usually because like most of the comments above finding a babysitter is not so easy. Every year for christmas our family does Secret Santa and last year my husband and I recieved a getaway voucher and a “babysitting” coupon for while were gone from our brother and sister in law. It was so nice!
I loved reading your comment, Valentina (oh and beautiful name, wink wink). I loved the family Secret Santa. What a cute idea.
I love posts like these, they help connect so many moms and makes us feel like we aren’t in our season of life. Just feels a bit encouraging. Thanks so much for visiting our online home.
Love , love this subject. We are blessed with 5 children and for our 10th Anniversary my husband found a babysitter and we told the kids that this time they are staying home Only mommy and daddy are going to celebrate our Anniversary. The older boy said “ wait we want to celebrate too, can’ t we all go like we always do ???? So we felt bad and all came with us ?
My husband is self employed so most of our dates are at lunch time when the kids are at school , we either go somewhere or he comes home for lunch. Communication and spending time with each other are very important, but most importantly we pray and try to fast every Friday of the week for our marriage and for the family.
May God Bless all the marriages !!!!
Valentina your blog has been a blessing for me ,you are such a wise Godly woman love all of your posts ??keep them coming !!!
My hubby is self-employed as well and we have 5 kiddos as well.
I love the idea of you guys fasting/praying together on a weekly basis. That is SOO inspiriting. I love it. Keep up the good work! Your children are so blessed to have you as parents.
Being married as long as we have, we’ve gotten into kind of a rut. Seems like dinner and a movie consists of takeout food and Netflix nowadays. A real date sounds wonderful! Thank you.
Yes, Carolsue, I think it is time for a real date. THough takeout and Netflix doesn’t sound too bad.
What a lovely idea! I’m not in a position to need it for myself at the moment, but I’d love to enter for my aunt and uncle (and yes, I will babysit).
What a blessing you are, Nicole. That’s so sweet of you and your aunt and uncle must be so proud of your big heart.
Date nights ended for us after our first son was born 8 years ago. We haven’t been on one since. Finding a babysitter has been the only issue. We do many things together as a family yet you showed me how important it is to have that one on one time together apart from the children. God bless you for the time you take to encourage others. Your blog is a place where I find true inspiration to be the mother and wife God has called me to be.
Thank you so much for the beautiful comment, Andra. It tug on the strings of my heart. However, I am no different than you. 🙂 I too am trying to figure out life as a mom, wife and daughter of the King. 🙂
We don’t go on dates often its hard to find time for it, but when we do its something on the fancier side. And leave the kids at grandmas,have some us time. We often Drink tea together, i love to bake do its perfect in evenings to catch up on our busy lives. Love
To win the give away!
So nice to have grandmas to help with babysitting. I love baking as well, it’s therapeutic. We often have date nights at home and I bake a nice cake for us to enjoy. So nice and relaxing.
Thank you for bringing up such an important topic! We have 2 sweet boys under 3, so what we started doing is packing them in the car, buying coffee and just drive around and talk and hold hands while the boys sleep .. Also a good thing to do when it seems the agenda for the kids is to bring the house down.
What a cute idea, Lina. That does sound wonderful. I remember when our oldest was little and he loved car rides. Sometimes we just could not get him to calm down so we’d drive around with him so he’d fall asleep. Good memories.
For us a date night was very rare because we live far from anyone who could babysit. Then everything came to a screeching halt when our little one got sick plus severe food allergies. For now a date night is only a dream… but I’ll make it happen if we win.
Awwww, Nataliya. I am sorry to hear about your the food allergies. I have several friends and their kids allergies and they had to completely change their lifestyles. Saying a prayer over your family.
Thank you, Valentina, for bringing up such an important topic in marriage!! Here I’m reading your blog and can’t even remember our last date with my husband
:(((( actually going out of the house. Well, we do have small talks with a cup of tea after our toddler is asleep once in a while and those are quite nice times together. We are good friends with my husbands brother and his wife and we have watched their small kids while they took a date night and they have done the same for us. Our kids play very well together! We have not done it in a long time though, so it’s time to write it on my calendar and go do it. Many, many blessings to your family, Valentina!!!!!
That’ wonderful that you have family and you can help each other with kids. What a blessing.
I think it’s way past time to get out for a few days if you can’t remember the last time you went out. It’s so good for the marriage and then reflects on the kids as well.
We been married for little over 6 years, and had 4 children, and I think since I had my 1st child we never went out on a date with hubby. We always take our Kids with us if we go anywhere. My husband never likes to leave them with babysitters. He always says, they are our kids, we have to take care if them. But I would love to win the giveaway, and to go on a date with hubby.
Hi, Tanya. Bless your heart, your hands are full. Yes, kids are the biggest blessing and our responsibility but a couple hours away from them is such a blessing. The kids get a break and mom and dad get some much needed time together. You’ll feel so rejuvenated once you come home.
Wishing God’s blessings upon your family.
Valentina, I love your blog! Not only do you have delicious recipes but wonderful and meaningful posts on life.
My husband and I have been married for two and a half years and we have a son who is a little over a year. After a year of being married we moved across the country to settle down and build a home. Since neither of the grandmas live nearby we don’t have a baby sitter who will watch our little one if we do want to go out. We haven’t done anything without him. We try to spend date time together when he’s asleep. I believe a date doesn’t have to be fancy, we can have a cup of tea once the baby is asleep and just share our thoughts with each other and I would consider that a successful date night.
Date nights at home and just as wonderful as going out, Alena. Sometimes you just have to work with what you have and in the current season of life. Wishing you many blessings in this new place you’ve moved to!
Very interesting to read comments, and mine will be similar: I would love to go somewhere with my husband, but with 5 little kids its not easy?♀️
Yes, it’s difficult to get out with 5 little nuggets, but possible. It’s just a season of life and before you know it, they will be teenagers.